It was February 2014, and I was ready to give up. The online dating membership I purchased just kept resulting in dates with the same type of guys I’d been with before – unavailable and dishonest – AND the month membership was coming to an end. I threw my hands up in the air, looked up beyond the ceiling and said, “Okay Universe, I give up! If I’m meant to be single the rest of my life- GREAT! I don’t care! But I WILL NOT compromise WHO I AM for anybody! I’m done with that old pattern.” 

After that, I went on one last date, where I met my future husband.

Turns out, we had a long history of near meetings and misses. In 2012, I even saw him across the street, felt my head naturally turn and a little voice pop in saying, “Maybe that’s who I’ll marry one day.” For real!

Back to manifestation. 

Earlier in the year, I had written out an entire list of qualities I wanted in a partner, right down to specifics like having dual citizenship. I went deep and allowed myself to write out whatever felt really juicy and wonderful at the time. I’m not going to share them all, but LITERALLY he checked EVERY SINGLE BOX.

The biggest thing on that list though, was finding someone who communicated in an open and honest way, respected me, and was willing to grow alongside of me (I was committed to growth, and I couldn’t have someone attached to a static version of me or themselves). Check!

Then there was our wedding.

I wanted a few specific things: certain garden lights, a lacey dress (for a specific price, including alterations), and cookies (I had a cookie phase, lol).

We were budgeting hard at that point, so it was no to the cookies, no to the garden lights. Luckily, I found the dress of my dreams to the EXACT DOLLAR amount (including alterations). Oh, and we manifested the garden lights AND the cookies (Plus, triple the number of cupcakes, and two full cakes. That honestly, is a GREAT story about karma- for another time). PLUS, a whole list of other things. We literally wrote all this down because it was like – WOW.

Since then, when something has us wrestling with fear of “how,” we do what we always do, and often get an even BETTER answer to our prayers than we thought possible.

• Make it known what you want! You can do this in a list or journalling (best to write it down, not just speak it). Remember to make sure there is room for miraculous interpretation. If you don’t know what I mean, see THIS POST on “Why I Stopped Using Dreamboards.”

• Use gratitude. Preceding every manifestation, was gratitude for what was already had. Sometimes it was a mental exercise to see the good, and other times, it was effortless joy. But it was always there.

• Focus on TRUST. As in, “Okay Universe! If this is going to happen, I am giving it to you – it’s not for me to go crazy trying to make happen on my own anymore.” Leave room for the manifestation to be even better than expected.

• Take action (Ie. go on that last date). You don’t have to hatch the plan, just do the next thing.

• Align beliefs with your dreams. If you’ve taken BODY CONNECTION BLUEPRINT, you have a whole module on your subconscious and conscious minds that relates to manifestation. In a nutshell, your conscious mind is the creative thinker (where you DREAM up your desires). Your subconscious mind is the operator. It’s your belief systems, and it literally drives your behaviours, about 95% of your waking time. 

So, yes we need the dream, but we also need it to align with the subconscious belief. If your beliefs don’t support your dreams, and it’s the beliefs driving the bus 95% of the time – that’s not going to end in the result you desire.

To this day, I tell my husband, “Thank GOD I did not meet you when I saw you in 2012. I wasn’t ready!” What I mean is, I still had so many subconscious beliefs that didn’t align me for my dream partner. They would have sabotaged the whole thing. Instead, we circled around each other for 2 years – him interning across from my school, then me interning across from his new work. Me canceling plans to move to Nova Scotia, as he canceled plans to move to Scotland. … until I was ready to drop all those old patterns, and say YES to me, and to the new, AND to him 😉 

Bonus Tip: Remember, what you want to manifest is ALREADY THERE – you just need to give the signal that you’re ready to CLAIM what is already yours.

When you realize you want it, soak in gratitude for what you have, step into trust as you take a step forward, recognize it’s ALREADY there, AND BELIEVE you are worthy of it, THAT is the moment it will *manifest.*

The more you practice, the faster it will come. Happy manifesting!